You Have To Let Go Of What Hurts You Even If It Hurts To Let Go

Time has made me understand that letting go is not giving up, that it is not an act of weakness, but of strength and growth because although it hurts to let you go, I understand that there are things that cannot be.

Along our life path we have left many things behind, we have detached ourselves from scenarios, situations, customs and even people. Today you are everything that you left in yesterday to form a more authentic present, even though it has involved a lot of suffering.

Assuming that living is often cutting ties and emptying our hands of what previously filled us with joys and hopes is something painful. However, the sooner we assume it, the more prepared we will be to overcome these moments, these crossroads where looking back is to “stick” to what cannot be.

Living on specific nostalgia enriches and inspires, but perpetually surviving the memory and what you let go, far from allowing you to grow, runs aground and erodes you like those rocks rammed over and over again by the pain of the waves.

Free yourself, move forward and assume what you have experienced as one who preserves a precious treasure: it enriches you from the inside and helps you take the most indicated path, the one where balance opens, what really should be for you.

Letting go of certain things so that better ones reach us

Sometimes what we let go of was something we trusted at the time and in many cases, it made us happy. The joys, love and hope of yesteryear explain the pain of now, and the difficulty of having to let go of that person or that situation.

Even what was good before can suddenly stop doing good to you, to bring you suffering, and even those who say they love you can let you go a little more day by day, like someone who is pulling the petals of a flower even leaving it naked with its thorns.

In reality, it is not easy to assume what we are told so many times that life is letting go, allowing yourself to flow without avoiding resistance. How to get it? People need security on a day-to-day basis, and we also need whoever loves us today to love us in the same way tomorrow.

Find your own way

The act of letting go implies a gesture of courage and self-knowledge. It is necessary to know how to perceive where our limits are and what it is that we really want for ourselves.

We are aware that no one has guaranteed happiness in the palm of their hand, however, we have the right to intertwine, at any given moment , our fingers in another hand that fills us with emotions, and that in some way, has to offer us wellness.

If that companion that we carried by the hand ends up guiding us along the path of unhappiness, it is necessary to let go to find our own way. And we will do it even if love exists , because despite affection and passion, not all relationships are wise, nor do all loves understand the language of respect.

A good self-esteem, and a strong attitude that defends our own dignity, will always be the one who will guide us away from these situations so as not to be mobilized, subjected to suffering. Because maturing is also letting go of those who do not want to stay.

Letting go is letting go, because no one comes to this world knowing everything, nor bringing with them the manual of perfect decisions, those that are free from error. Living is trying, touching, starting, taking risks and also making mistakes, hence, we must take into account the following aspects:

• Do not be angry, do not fill your heart with anger or your mind with resentment. Letting go is an art that must be done peacefully and without anger, only then will we allow ourselves to be free, discovering that day by day the pain is much less.

• To let go, the first thing we must do is learn to accept: accept that every experience was worth it because it is a life lived, because whoever denies and forgets does not assume, does not heal and does not learn. It is necessary to accept what happened and understand that letting go is also growing.

Someday everything will make sense, the pain of now, the chaos and the uncertainty of letting go of what defined you before, tomorrow will be that door that will bring you much better things, because remember … everything happens for a reason.

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