There Are Relationships That Waste Our Time

There are people who waste our time, something very precious that we only value in critical moments of our lives. Wasting time is losing something that will never return. Each of us, on average, has about 27,000 days to live. You have to subtract a third for sleep and another part for those first years that you do not remember.

Why do we get involved in time-wasting relationships? Why do we share minutes, days or years with people who do not contribute to us? Answering this is extremely complex and, of course, it is necessary to analyze each personal story to give it meaning.

However, it should be noted that we do not embark on insipid relationships or that waste our time just for the sake of it. It is not about being a selfish person, but it is healthy in your behaviors, in your relationships. Being able to give love and be loved, when they make us waste time, let’s not miss the opportunity to take advantage of it with another person.

Losing time with someone is suffering more than enjoying

There are people who are wasting your time now and perhaps one day they filled it with joy. Knowing that life is change and full of cycles is accepting and living it. It makes you end up with unnecessary agonies long before everything is too rotten.

Because, although we often want to keep up appearances, feelings do not fail or deceive. And accumulated feelings of frustration and disappointment in a relationship already turn into a negative state of mind towards the other person. In a motor incapacity to give caresses or hugs. In a lack of ability to give compliments and receive them and, even, in a sneaky search for your best smile, because it never comes out spontaneously anymore.

Relationships require maintenance, but there is a difference between maintaining a good relationship and trying to force a bad one that doesn’t make much sense. When you are already fundamentally incompatible with someone, you run the risk of wasting too much valuable time.

Each relationship you find in your life will have served a different purpose: some will bring out the best in you, others the worst, and most will leave you indifferent. The important thing is that this does not allow you to limit your ideas about relationships and that it prevents you from keeping your heart open.

That relationship didn’t always waste your time

If there is something difficult in human relationships, it is knowing when to withdraw from a certain company, when to assume that it is better to be alone at a certain time than to share it out of mere props . However, wasting time is not losing the opportunity to get it back. There are people who make you make up for all that lost time of reproaches, insecurities or disloyalty.

Stop borrowing minutes, days and years into relationships that take away the meaning of your existence. You know you’ve wasted your time with someone when you don’t miss them. When the good times no longer appear in your head without being clouded by the feeling of failure and disappointment later. Wasting time is sharing your life with someone you no longer admire or value.

Alarms indicating deterioration

That a relationship is deteriorated is something easy to detect, but very difficult to face. How many times have we been forced to go on a date without feeling like it, to be in a meeting absent, to pay for a trip wanting it to end before even setting foot on the destination. These are clear indicators that something is seriously wrong, but taking action is difficult.

How to distance yourself then with dissimulation, without damage, without destroying every step of the relationship that you once built? Difficult, but necessary. Sometimes just wanting to do it makes us feel instantly guilty.

Indicators that something is wrong

There are some objective indicators that have to make you think and push yourself to make a decision. Some of the clearest and most painful are:

• Your presence seems to bother the other person. The way you express yourself, your opinion or even eat is a nuisance. You stop being comfortable to be alert.
• He questions you in front of acquaintances: he brings up personal issues about anything, putting you in the crosshairs of several people who should not be involved in that conversation of yours, personal, that you only decide to bring up.

• You feel distrust instead of calm when you are not with her, you sense that she talks about you and not in a good way.
• He does not advise you, he does not console you: he evaluates, ridicules or even “scolds” you for anything.
• No plan of those proposed by you seems good to him.
• There are no arguments or anger and obvious, but the atmosphere is charged like a grenade about to explode.
• His gaze is no longer sweet, companion, reassuring. Now he looks at you hoping to get something that you don’t know what it is. It is an accusing look, empty. You can’t see anything in the expression in his eyes.
• In short: you no longer see clarity in it, you only see murky currents that increasingly penetrate you and that makes you feel an aggressive, sad, stressed and betrayed person.

All these aspects are just a sign that you are wasting your time with that person. Be a friend, cousin, sister, partner or mother. Depending on the degree of relationship, the emotional tear will be greater.

Do not forget that for what one day hurts a lot, on many other days relief will be breathed. But that will be later than soon if you put off that decision too long.

People will arrive who will occupy that space

After suffering, one day someone will come, a person with whom you will feel that your life is rebuilt at the same time that you feel support without malice in it. That person who will give birth can be called a friend, coworker or partner.

Then, you will know that you are not wasting your time when you can give your opinion freely. When the smile floods your face or when you argue frankly and then solve it without rancor.

Do not give up that opportunity because we all have that right, hope is powerful and the facts that it drives even more.

If you have “wasted your time” with someone, you have already won; Well, you have been able to put an end to that story. Now there is the most beautiful thing: recover it loving you and loving you. If it goes wrong, don’t take as long as the last time, that’s the cycle of life.