I Want A Hug In Which Fear And Winter Do Not Enter
I need a hug, I need your arms to surround me and leave no room for fear or the cold of winter. I need to feel protection from what hurts me, what saddens me. But I do not want any hug, I want a very strong one, in which words are not necessary because your body surrounds mine and transmits your energy to me at the same time that I hug you with all my heart.
Make me forget what hurts me and remind me that life is warmth, home, friendship, love. It is not necessary to pronounce a single word, because your hands on my back and your head resting on my shoulder, will tell me about your appreciation, about your affection.
Why we need hugs
It is evidence that children need hugs since displays of affection, hugs, kisses, caresses, promote their growth and increase oxytocin levels. And when we grow up and become adults, we receive very little hugs, we spend very little time in physical contact with other people.
It seems that we are afraid to show what we feel, to show love and affection, to touch and feel our skin next to the skin of another person. We need hugs to feel protected, to give us energy, to remember that there is someone who really cares about us, to feel comforted. If you need a hug, tell who you love or hug spontaneously.
The benefits of hugs
Hugging another person has many benefits, and several scientific studies have shown that physical contact makes us feel better about ourselves, has a positive effect on the development of intelligence, and can produce physiological changes. Hugging is a form of physical contact, but it is definitely special.
Increase the level of oxytocin
A hug increases the level of oxytocin, the hormone that produces well-being, and reduces stress levels, lowering blood pressure and heart rate.
When we hug, the receptors in our skin wake up and send signals to the vagus nerve in the brain, responsible for lowering blood pressure. A study carried out in 2010 by the University of Miami (Florida) concludes that the more hugs, the lower the blood pressure.
They help communication
When we hug we generate trust, affection, love, so that communication with the other person who surrounds us with his arms improves and we will feel very good. Words are not necessary because the gentle pressure of a body and arms on us, causes trust to generate itself.
Increase self-esteem
When someone hugs you increases self-esteem, because we feel that the other person appreciates us and transmits it to us with their hug. In 2012, a study was published in the Jouarnal of Science Psychology, which revealed that hugs greatly reduced the worry about dying and improved the attitude towards fear.
They foster empathy and understanding
With a hug we can put ourselves in the place of the person we hug and that person feel in our place. We can make a stranger, a friend, our partner understand us and support us. The need to be understood is very human, and sometimes with a simple hug we can feel the support we need.
We must try to recover the closeness of people, because currently due to the proliferation of social networks and the use of mobile phones, relationships are increasingly cold and there is no space to listen, to look into the eyes, to caress, kiss or hug.
It is essential for our well-being to find physical contact with other people, to encourage hugs. Therefore, hug and let yourself be hugged, enjoy the warmth and intimacy that is created with a strong and long hug.
