Small Lies Lose Great People

Nobody likes lies, no matter how pious or small. It does not make us feel good that they decide for us what we should or should not know, how we should do it and from whose mouth it is convenient for us to find out something.

There is nothing more heartbreaking than lies and hypocrisy, since both make us feel small and vulnerable, as well as distrust the world and create a shell of ice that breaks us from the inside. For this reason, with small lies great people are lost because a thousand truths and hundreds of feelings that we believed to be sincere are questioned.

And it is that through deception the bad habit of handling and fragmenting the experiences and feelings of others is fed, something that makes us victims and that is intolerable when it comes to guaranteeing well-being and comfort in a relationship.

I like to be told the truth, I’ll see if it hurts or not

When a feeling as important as trust is broken, something dies inside us. It is truly sad that good relationships and friendships are destroyed because of something that could have been prevented.

In fact, when we realize or uncover a deception, we generally think that no matter how harsh the reality may be, we could have endured it much better than the betrayal of our trust. And this is generally very true.

The lie always causes more pain than the truth if it is discovered. In addition, we must not forget that the fact that the truth comes to light is very likely because, as we well know, the lie has very short legs.

In any case, it should be added here that we cannot demand sincerity and then be offended by hearing the truths as long as they are said with respect. This is important because sincere people are often labeled “bad,” thus disparaging acts of good faith.

Sincerity is the basis of all trust

We all have the explicit and implicit belief that the quality of a person depends on their ability to be sincere and to show themselves clearly to the world and to the people around them.

In fact, we presuppose in the same way that the basis of all sincere affection is precisely the total and absolute acceptance, without “buts” , without conditions and without excuses. That is, in principle we understand that we do not have to lie or hide anything from those we love and those who love us.

But perhaps the more love is involved, the more expectations exist. The simple fact of believing that we are going to disappoint the hopes that others place in us sometimes makes us make the mistake of believing that little lies can be justified.

However, as we have been saying, this is not the case. As much as it costs us to understand it, we must stop to think about how we disappoint more, if not by being honest or doing it despite momentarily compromising the ideal that others hold of us.

We all make mistakes and we can think that what we want to hide is just another mistake. It is our responsibility to contemplate all possibilities and to be tolerant of others in the same way that we would like them to be tolerant of us.

After all, it is sincere loving relationships that are capable of supporting any truth and the reality that accompanies them. However, lies destroy and devastate trust, something that in turn takes hundreds of experiences to build and a second to break.

So we must be careful at this point, which is if possible the most important or at least one of the most important of our relationships and positive exchanges. Let’s not forget that lying, no matter how hard it may be, is a great opportunity to grow and better choose those around us.