Today I Choose To Be My Priority: Today I Choose To Be Happy

Today I choose to take care of myself a little more, to take care of that inner garden that grows in me to be happy, not to fall into other people’s selfishness, so that my days do not have more dark moments and life brings me suns of joy.

We all want to be happy, but in reality, we do not always start on the right path : attending to each other, listening to each other, placing ourselves as protagonists in the theater of our lives and not behind a curtain where life only passes and forgets to hug us.

No one should call you selfish for saying “no” when you need it, for seeking oxygen and freedom in moments of pressure, for cutting ties when people hurt you. No one has power over you except yourself, because we all come into this world alone and leave in the same way … So why not start being happy and offering happiness now?

Being happy is an adventure that should last a lifetime

Choosing to be happy is the first leap that will undoubtedly bring you closer to your goal, because whoever chooses decides; because whoever takes the first step through their thoughts will end up materializing it in their reality, in their daily life. Being happy implies, on many occasions, making decisions that involve ourselves and others. However, this shouldn’t sound selfish. Caring for others is an enormous act of generosity, however, first we must make sure that we host what we offer: happiness.

Now, being happy, in addition to making a wise choice, sometimes means having to prioritize and realize that perhaps we should put ourselves in front of some things and some situations. It sounds radical, but in reality, it is about maintaining a “balance” between others and us.

Surround yourself with people who give you light, not suffering

As we have pointed out before, the key is in balance. One must be well above all with oneself, you must perceive that everything you do or stop doing adjusts to your expectations, to your identity, to your essence. Try to adapt the environment in a way that benefits you. Living in adverse situations or putting up with negative people can help us grow, but we should not fall into masochism either.

There are people who make us lose that inner balance : they take us away from our values, they violate our integrity, they take away our energies, they manipulate us with their ironies, their demands, or they subject us to an affection inhabited only by thorns. In these cases, it will be better to establish a certain distance, since we can get infected with the negativity they transmit.

Surround your life with authentic people with whom they allow you to be yourself at all times. Now, we know that throughout our existence we must relate to figures that do not always fit with who we are, with what we need.

In these cases, in this type of complex but “self-imposed” relationship, either because they are family or colleagues, it is only a matter of not giving them authority in your life. Limit the deal, deactivate the influence on you of the one who disturbs you and, once again, prioritize yourself.

We must be careful with those limiting attitudes where our self is labeled with “I will not be able to”, “this is not for me”, “I will fail”, or “it is clear that happiness will never call me door”…

• If your thinking puts up walls and your attitude creates strengths, you will never let the winds of happiness enter. Be authentic, be yourself, attend to your inner self and release it.

• We must also be careful with external influences that act as true boycotts of our self-esteem. Couples that control, that limit, that veto spaces and personal growth …

• We cannot ignore the weight of many families, of those authoritarian education models, of fathers and mothers who build real bubbles preventing the maturation and freedom of their children …

Sometimes, to be happy, you have to make an inner journey to heal many wounds and deficiencies of yesterday. Once the fears are covered, satisfied and released, it is time to open our eyes and heart and believe in it, believe that we really deserve to be happy.

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