You Have The Right To Complain And Respond To What Hurts

You have the right to complain when something does not please you, when something hurts or differs with your values and principles. The complaint is not synonymous with illness, behavior problem or emotionality. It is the capacity of the human being to express his affliction or annoyance at a given moment before the facts that he sees and that surrounds him; it is being able to say aloud what causes us displeasure or disagreement.

Emotional expression has many forms and this is one of them. The only thing is that, on average, people do not tend to look favorably on those who use the language of the complaint. In some way, we have associated this behavior with those who choose to regret things instead of daring to change them, when, in reality, this is not always the case.

We have to understand something: in the universe of human behavior, diversity is immense and we cannot lightly label those who, at any given moment, come to us with their complaints. Sometimes we need it. There are times when it is necessary to leave out what is inside, to release indignation, annoyance and even the suffering that life itself generates.

We know that the complaint is not the solution to the problems that destiny brings, but, on occasions, it can be the first step for change, the one that finally dares to transform your reality. It is necessary to know how to manage these situations.

If it hurts or makes you angry, you have the right to complain (and the obligation to act)

Complaining by itself rarely solves anything, but still, as they say, we vent. However, with this act we do much more than release emotions and regrets. Let’s think about it, in our society we have legal mechanisms to communicate our complaints to the consumer sector when we acquire something with which we are not satisfied. We also protest bad services received, for situations in which our rights are violated.

Formalizing this type of communication to the relevant organizations is part of our day to day. However, when someone close to us comes to complain about the bad relationship with their boss or coworkers, we often see it with a bad eye. Because they carry their problems, their negative emotions, on us instead of solving that situation by themselves and not leaving bad humor and frustration on the shoulders of others.

We forget one aspect and it is that, in reality, the complaint is a useful psychological mechanism. It generates relief, we externalize negative emotions and thoughts and we mobilize for action. Therefore, sometimes we look for a person in our circle to listen to us, validate our feelings and thus feel a little more reinforced to act in the face of what bothers us.

You have the right to complain: remember that the useful complaint is one that leads us to action

You have the right to complain and the obligation to act. Because beyond what they have been able to tell you, the complaint is useful as long as it serves as a propellant towards action, as a resource to release emotions and clarify what actions we are going to take. An example, Don Santiago Ramón y Cajal used to say that, often, our brain cells only turn on and stretch under the lash of the most complicated and heartbreaking emotions.

That is, dimensions such as that frustration, that anger or that pain that accompanies complaints, can often serve as drivers for us to think of actions to solve the problem. On the contrary, and as we well know, there are those who allow themselves to be “contaminated”, who are trapped by those negative emotions and limit themselves to feeding back the complaints over and over again, until they drift into a spiral with no way out.

It is then when the brain is captivated by the lament, the one that does not see any way out or seeks a solution to the problem. Those same thought patterns are fed over and over again, and the foundations of a depressive disorder are easily germinated. It is something that we must take into account.

Somatic complaints, what you do not say is suffered by your body

This data is curious and it is worth taking it into account. In a study carried out at the University of Valencia, doctors Ordóñez and Maganto discovered that many primary school children suffer from headaches, digestive problems, sleep disturbances. .. Many of these disturbances fit into what we know as somatic complaints.

They are the effect of adverse situations that they experience daily and that children do not know how to express. Those contained emotions, that inability to talk about what bothers, hurts or worries them ends up internalizing until they lead to these psychophysical problems. Therefore, it is important that we consider a detail.

You have the right to complain and to communicate aloud what is outrageous to you, what hurts others to do, what you are not willing to endure. Many times, and from our childhood, we learn to silence what offends us and something like that takes a sad toll. The key, therefore, is to make use of that assertive complaint that is capable of clarifying what bothers, hurts and unworthy and then act and put means and efforts to change that situation.

This task is not easy and that is why so many remain in eternal regret without knowing what to do, without daring to act. Let’s take this into account, let’s put means and strategies to go from relief to action.